See What You Made Me Do? SBS tackles Domestic Abuse Crisis

Jess Hill's gripping and essential documentary series spearheads SBS programming during Domestic and Family Violence Prevention Month

Content Warning: This piece contains discussion of domestic violence.


A man’s voice is heard making a call to emergency services. He sounds remarkably calm.

‘I’ve killed my partner. My ex-partner.’

‘So…You’ve killed your ex-partner?’ The operator wonders if she’s heard right.

‘I’m pretty sure she’s dead yeah. Yup, she’s not moving at all.’

This is the utterly shocking start of a three-part documentary series premiering from Wednesday May 5 on SBS. Hosted by investigative journalist Jess Hill, it’s built from the concept of her 2020 Stella Award-winning non-fiction book See What You Made Me Do: Power, Control and Domestic Abuse.

We’re told that on average, one woman a week is killed by a current or former partner in Australia. Most Australians who experience domestic abuse will never report it, and their abusers will never be called to account.

Every day another headline screams about a women and her children killed by the man who supposedly once loved them. What’s going on? Why doesn’t she just leave him? Why does he do it? How can we help before it’s too late?

Over three episodes, the series provides deep and challenging insights, especially through firsthand accounts and interviews with those who’ve suffered, those who try to help them, and also, most intriguingly, with the perpetrators facing what they’ve done and sometimes trying to change.

Even WHO magazine calls it ‘One of the most important documentaries you’ll ever watch’ and they may be right, especially if you’re a young woman starting your romantic life and looking for your fairytale prince.

True crime is a tricky thing to get right, morally. Is it okay to be excited by this content? How can we ensure it’s not just more dead girls for our…. entertainment? True crime must have a real social purpose. Perhaps that’s why presenter Jess Hill seems so emphatically serious. Tears flow as she listens to a mother of young children talk about the risky plan to leave an abusive man in the only free gap she has: while doing the weekly grocery shop.

This is not supposed to be exciting and yet it’s compulsively watchable. We see one young woman, articulate, educated and beautiful, telling her story from first Tinder swipe, to ‘kinky’ text messages, to being choked, controlled and coerced out of her life savings and into a psychiatric ward. Years later she can’t work, can’t go to the shops without a panic attack, can’t have another relationship.

‘Domestic abuse … is still badly misunderstood, and our systems – police, courts, family law – are still a long way from being reliably protective. In fact, too often, they further enable the perpetrator and perpetuate the abuse.’

Jess Hill

For me, the most surprising revelation was around ‘coercive control’ and the fact that domestic abuse is not necessarily physically violent, not at first anyway. It often begins with attentiveness, small signs of possessiveness that are interpreted by the victim as ‘being loved too much’.

Romantic ‘love’ is no stranger to the will to power; the desire to control and fully possess the object of one’s affection. Mostly it’s men who murder, but jealous rage, paranoia and emotional coerciveness are part of the human story and of many long term relationships. How can we change this, as a society?

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Jess Hill, who is also Consultant Producer on the show, says, ‘Domestic abuse … is still badly misunderstood, and our systems – police, courts, family law – are still a long way from being reliably protective. In fact, too often, they further enable the perpetrator and perpetuate the abuse. With this SBS series, we hope to kickstart more difficult and honest conversations – in our households, police stations, and parliaments.

See What You Made Me Do is produced and directed by Tosca Looby of Northern Pictures for SBS. (Executive producer is Northern Pictures’ head of factual, Karina Holden.)

Looby has said in the presser: ‘It has taken over two years to build See What You Made Me Do from a difficult concept to a fully fleshed, sometimes beautiful, sometimes devastating, always important exploration of domestic abuse and coercive control in this country. When making See What You Made Me Do, we wanted the series to be bold and unflinching. It was imperative that we unlock the gates, open the doors and pull up the blinds where abuse hides. We hope this series encourages a national conversation and bold political action, creating an impact which resonates long beyond broadcast.’

SBS programs for May: Domestic Violence Prevention Month

May is Domestic and Family Violence Prevention Month and See What You Made Me Do will be accompanied by a range of content across the SBS network exploring domestic abuse. This includes: 

  • At 9:30pm on Tuesday 4 May, Dateline will air Dying to Divorce, an observational documentary filmed over five years that takes viewers into the heart of Turkey’s gender-based violence crisis. Featuring personal stories, the documentary gives a unique perspective on the struggle to be an independent woman in modern Turkey.
  • At 8:30pm on Tuesday 11 May, Insight explores coercive control and whether it should be criminalised.
  • Directly after the second episode of See What You Made Me Do at 9:30pm on Wednesday 12th May, National Indigenous Television (NITV) will air a standalone response program titled We Say No More where panellists unpack how domestic abuse impacts Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander women. Filmed at the Brisbane Powerhouse Museum with five panellists and a studio audience, revered journalist, artistic director and Bundjalung woman, Rhoda Roberts AO, will host the discussion.
  • Monday, 10 May at 8:30pm, Living Black will air an in-conversation with justice advocates Keenan Mundine and Carly Stanley, talking to Karla Grant about their own experiences of domestic abuse.
  • Immediately following the final episode of See What You Made Me Do on SBS on Wednesday 19 May, Jess Hill will join a panel of experts to discuss solutions that Australia can implement today to solve the family violence crisis. The one-hour special will be hosted by The Feed’s Alice Matthews.

See What You Made Me Do premieres 8:30pm Wednesday 5 May on SBS and SBS On Demand. The three-part series continues weekly, and every episode will be simulcast on NITV. It will be also be available to stream on SBS On Demand with subtitles in six languages. It will be available with audio description for blind or vision-impaired audiences.

Rochelle Siemienowicz is the ArtsHub Group's Education and Career Editor. She was previously a journalist for Screenhub and is a writer, film critic and cultural commentator with a PhD in Australian cinema. She was the co-host of Australia's longest-running film podcast 'Hell is for Hyphenates' and has written a memoir, Fallen, published by Affirm Press. Her second book, Double Happiness, a novel, will be published by Midnight Sun in 2024. Instagram: @Rochelle_Rochelle Twitter: @Milan2Pinsk